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In my head, it’s fall

It must be because of the quiet, cozy, slice-of-life blogs I’ve been reading. I get lost in reading about cups of tea, cool mornings, comfy sweaters, and then look up it’s and blinding sunlight and nearly 100F. Maybe I belong in the Pacific Northwest. I wouldn’t be able to take the muggy, sticky summers of New England anymore: 3 decades of life in the high desert southwest has me feeling that 25% is high humidity. *snort*

BTW, that whole “it’s a dry heat” thing? Hot is hot. Believe me. And honestly, as uncomfortable as 100F is here, 90F in NE with 100% humidity is brutal. Suffocating, even.

I had so many things to do today, and instead I feel as if there isn’t a drop of energy anywhere in my body. I sent my sister light for her birthday, and that perked me up for a while. Days like this make me wonder how I’m going to do back in the workforce – a necessity that I continue to block out on one level, acting as if Tuesday won’t come. Instead I keep adding up in my head how many clients it would take for me to be able to stay home, and then getting sad again.

Glaring at me until I feed her

The cat has decided that she needs to be fed 3x a day, a decision I vehemently disagree with, especially since I’d been feeding her dry food for a while and it always makes her gain weight. She loves Fancy Feast (the wheat-free ones) so much that she’d happily eat a can every few hours. Ain’t happening. So now she perches on the small table and stares at me, hoping that will guilt me into feeding her. Nope.

My Dry July partner didn’t even make it a day, so that’s a blow. I’ll have to be that much more determined, and more of anything but rest is not something for which I have spoons or bandwidth. So very, very many forks and not a spoon in sight.

And now it’s time to figure out dinner. Ramen, anyone?

With hope and love,

Pip 🌻✨🫖

©Pip Miller – July 2022

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Tomorrow Dry July Begins!

I’m ready. I’m looking forward to it. I’m planning in my head how to spend the day (though the first couple days are always easy), and making sure I have lots of sparkling water and treats on hand.

I plan to start the day sending light because it always makes me feel good to help others, and it puts me in a good frame of mind for the day, too.

Photo by Suzy Hazelwood on Pexels.com

I have a TBR pile that’s pretty big, and it has quite a few cozy mysteries for the days when my brain isn’t up to intricate books. I’ll add thing to my sobriety toolbox as the month goes, on, and remove anything that isn’t really helping me deal with TBB.

One big change, that I’m not looking forward to, is that I start work on the 5th. No masks sends me over the freaking-out edge, and while I’ll do my best to be as careful as I can, I know that being the only one masked (even a good mask) isn’t enough protection. My stomach has really been tied to my emotions more than ever, and I already have lots of butterflies. I’ve tried to find a work-from-home, and to make my healing work my living, but neither has happened. I’m sad. Very sad.

Wish me luck! And if anyone else is doing Dry July….we can do it!!!

With hope and love,

Pip 🌻✨☕

©Pip Miller – June 2022

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The Lightmaker’s Manifesto

In another, well, I’m sure everyone knew this, but it hit me like a bolt of lightning, passage from a book.

©Karen Walrond

So with regards to Dry July, my goal is not to drink all month, and now I need to put into place a ritual to make sure I achieve that goal. Sounds simple, right? I’m sure TBB (TheBeerBitch) will have something to say about that, but drowning her out will of course be part of the ritual.

I’m feeling excited!

And to make the day even better, it rained all night (yay), AND I was asked to send light to a horse trainer who had a terrible fall. I ended up doing an hour for that one because my hands ‘told’ me to. The flow was strong, and I hope it helped!

BTW, eagle-eyed followers may have noticed that I switched from a static website page to a traditional blog format. It just felt right, and I’m hoping it will get people to look at more pages on the site. I still have an ‘About’ page I call “Pip Who?“. lol

If you’re new here, welcome!

With hope and love,

Pip 🌻✨🫖

©Pip Miller – June 2022

PS: I’m testing out CounterSocial again (the nicer Twitter(, and I think I have to upgrade to have a link to my account, so if you’re there, my username is @HealingHobbit.

©Pip Miller – June 2022

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Dry July preparation

There’s a quote that says something like, ‘don’t do harder, do different’, and I know from long experience that it’s really difficult for me to go cold turkey from drinking, not because I’m incapable, but because I give in too easily to outer influences these days. I’m not proud of it, but it’s true.

I decided to use create a mind map, and figure out what would really help me when TheBeerBitch (TBB for short) starts yelling in my head.

I wrote down 6 things, mixing goals and feelings. Then I narrowed it down to what was most important to me. I came up with sobriety, comforted, and financially secure. For sobriety, the offshoots are lots of tea and sparkling water, listening to sober podcasts, reading sober books/blogs, and making sure to blog my progress as a sort of accountability throughout the month.

©Camilla Pang – An Outsider’s Guide to Humans

Now while these are great to keep in mind, they don’t really help in the moment, ya know? In “An Outsider’s Guide to Humans“, Camille Pang describes and includes a picture of her ‘decision tree’*, which she uses to plan for a specific outcome by planning ahead for what will happen if, say in my case, 3 pm hits and TBB starts yelling in my head that it’s time for a beer. Option A is drink a sparkling water, and if that doesn’t work, then A1 is put on a sober podcast. If option A works, then we move on to making dinner. If temptation starts again, then option B is…

Each option has ‘if this, then that’ branches, and branches off of those branches until, no matter what happens (that I can foresee), I have a something to do to keep me from grabbing that beer. And the goal is always that one outcome, not to drink for July. BTW, the roots of the tree are things that are necessary no matter what (the water, a journal nearby, M&M’s, lavender lotion for calming when TBB is really screaming, etc).

I’m sure this idea has been around for ages, but I don’t remember coming across it before, and I just spent 2 hours trying to remember the name of book, finally heading to the library where the title was found by the librarian, because librarians are actually mythical creatures who know ALL, and then driving to another branch to pick up a copy. Because I knew that decision tree is going to be very important in July.

*Aside, the illustrations are the author’s own, and her handwriting is a bit difficult to decipher. There’s still one phrase in a particular picture that I can not make heads nor tails of, no matter what. It would have been really helpful if they’d copied the illustrations and made them legible. IJS.

My tree will definitely have energy healing (which means family and friends are going to be receiving “hey, just sent some light to you -or your pet-!” texts. lol)

Have any of you used something similar to the decision tree? If so, what for, and did it help?

With love and hope,

Pip 🌻✨🫖

©Pip Miller – June 2022

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Does ‘community’ apply to blogging?

Found this on Twitter this morning, and in the comments people mentioned that either they don’t comment on others’ blogs, or others don’t comment on theirs…

No one asked me, but I’d like to defend lazy blog posts. Not everything needs to be a 300 word masterpiece. You can just share an open ended question and wait to see what conversations unfold in the comments.— Josepha Haden Chomphosy (@JosephaHaden) June 21, 2022

Which got me wondering about the nearly 200 followers I have and the less than a handful of comments posts get. And then it dawned on me that I don’t really comment very often, either. I think we all got so used to hitting ‘like’ or ‘heart’ that anything more in this now, now, now online world has been trained out of us. You can even click on the star here on WordPress for ‘like’ instead of commenting.

Have we lost the ability to communicate and connect?

Starting on the 1st, my guy and are going to do a month without alcohol. Dry July without the sponsors. That’s what yesterday’s question was concerning and wanting the community aspect was part of my dilemma.

Photo by Roberto Vivancos on Pexels.com

Sticking with WordPress makes sense because yes, you can comment on Substack, but it’s another site you’d have to sign up for in order to comment, and if you’re reading this, you either already get these posts via email or there’s another way you read them, so maybe you’ll comment as the month goes on (or even join in!).

I don’t know if I’ll post daily, but will most likely multiple times a week, so if you’re someone who prefers a streamlined inbox, following the blog here on WordPress and reading at will might be a better option.

Here’s to a blogging community and a dry july!

With hope and love,

Pip 🌻✨🫖

©Pip Miller – June 2022

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Sleepy sweet Saturday

I’m sitting by the window, clouds moving in, breeze tickling my bare arms with bits of cold…and I feel awful. Asthma attack yesterday in the wee hours and I’m still trying to breathe normally and I’ve had a headache ever since. It’s too chilly for me to sit outside, so this is my compromise. I had errands planned, but that’s not going to happen. I might not even shower.

Nah, I will. It’ll warm me up.

I woke early, fed the zoo (three animals can be a zoo, correct?), and then sent light to a dog in Canada. It’s interesting how I’ll get a feeling or thought while sending that I need to switch up the hand placements before I’m finished, and this morning the paw I was working with became the hindquarters, which took in more light than the paw. Limping can cause the hips (hindquarters in animals) to compensate and become themselves a bit off, and I’ve also read that dogs hold their stress in that area. Whatever the reason, this pet needed the light there, and I have no idea how I knew that -and I don’t need to know how, but it’s still curious to me. Intuition? Subconscious information from the universe? Who knows. It’s always right, though, that much I do know.

I have a post coming up that will be about the retainer I just finished (not sure how to describe that better). It’ll be DMs I exchanged with the cat’s owner, and in them you’ll see how I work with the client, how I do the lightwork, how sometimes the ‘verse doesn’t give me info and I have to work out what’s best on my own (the nerve! 😂)and also, best of all, the feedback from Albus’ owner, Cheri!

Enjoy your weekend! I’m off to read this sobriety resource blog on Holly Whitaker’s site.

With love and hope,

Pip ✨🌻

PS: I’ve been scrolling through Tumblr – and scrolling and scrolling – and while I know it’s a learning curve and it’s not quite as straightforward as Twitter, FB, or IG, I love it there. I’m Eavesdown Abbey, if you want to check out my feed.

©Pip Miller – April 2022

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They say it’s your birthday

And it is! I can’t wrap my head around being 59 today; that number just does not compute. There’s a disconnect between how I feel mentally and the actual number of years I’ve lived…the usual story.

My tarot card for this year is the Hermit, which, according to this episode of Cardslingers Coast-to-Coast, is about self-care; a take on it that’s new to me, but one that is really fitting right now. I found this on Tumblr which was a bit of a light-bulb moment:

Puts a bit of a different spin on it, don’t you think? Self-care seems…optional, but system maintenance is necessary or everything goes to shit, right? Mind blown.

My major system maintenance is the ongoing quest for sobriety. A year ago, and probably a few others over time, I wrote about my problem with alcohol. It’s a generational thing in my family, and unfortunately I made the decision to go back down that path nearly (this makes me cringe with shame) a quarter of a century ago after staying sober for over 3 years. I didn’t accomplish my goal last year, but I never give up the battle. I’ve learned that just declaring “I quit. No more!” doesn’t work, and I’m not fond of the prevailing group idea, so I need other things to keep me on the path.

So I used birthday money to splurge on The Hero’s Journal. I’d just watched this…

And the journal just seemed like the perfect way to do that. And it’s fun! My evil wizard Drinko is called The Beer Bitch, btw.

So Happy Birthday to me, the quest is on!

With hope and love,

Pip 🌻✨

BTW, I fixed all the links in posts and pages back to 2017. There’s more to do, but I’m nearly finished! I also reconfigured some of the pages, names, etc, to better streamline the website and what I do. If you haven’t before, check out the website! I’d love to help you feel better!

PS: Another fabulous journal to help you accomplish your goals is The Map by Claudia Wair.

PPS: Have I mentioned how much I love Tumblr? I’m sure I have, but it bears repeating.

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Laters, Alcohol!

Oh, the number of times I’ve said that in the last couple decades. And each time, I mean them, totally and completely.

My addicted brain, on the other hand, has a different agenda.

I’ve written about stopping in the past, and then ended up making the posts private or deleting them when the addiction “won”. I was mortified that I’d “failed” again, when in reality, the alcohol was just doing it’s primary job; keeping me addicted. I know I shouldn’t be ashamed of drinking; the well-worn tracks leading from “And then something would happen. Or nothing would happen.”* to drinking are deep in an imbiber’s brain, and training myself to bypass that automatic journey and create new tracks isn’t easy. Ask any drinker who swears “never again” at 3 a.m., and then is downing the drink of choice by 5 or 6 p.m., if not earlier.

Alcohol rewires our brain, and it excels at doing so.

Very soon I’ll turn 58, and begin my 59th year of life. (Excuse me while I faint at the thought of that – I’m still a teenager in my head). Maybe by writing about it more often and making the journey a part of my online presence will help, who knows. I just know I’m so over the struggle.

A lot of people do a Dry January, and then there’s the big one that I believe started it all, Dry July. There are hashtags for other months, too, but those are the only ones I can think of at the moment – how about #MocktailMarch? After the month is over, some go back to drinking, using that dry month as a sort of detox and reset, and then there are the others who decide to stay sober for good.

I’ve wanted that for so, so long. I’d make it a varying number of days or weeks, read endless books and blogs, even tried AA (not my cup of tea), and then I’d end up watching Intervention and Celebrity Rehab with a beer in hand, crying….

I vehemently dislike the concept that have 15 years under your belt (or any amount of alcohol-free days) belt, drink one beer, and suddenly you’re supposed to go back to Day 1. Not cool. That negates all the hard work done to achieve those 15 years, and by dismissing them, it just makes the person want to keep drinking because why the hell not, right? I won’t be counting days as it has screwed me up too many times before. Hence the beer in hand, crying.

I’m teetotaling up, and if you want to come along for the ride,

here’s a few things that might interest you:

There’s a plethora of sober bloggers out there, and a large number of Quit Lit books that have resulted from those blogs. I admit it, some of those books make me want to grab a glass of wine (not my go-to drink) simply because they wax on about it so much. And then there’s the occasional “I’ve been sober 7 days, lost 15 lbs, my chronic acne is completely gone, I just ran my first 5K, and I’m cooking at a Michelin chef 5-star level, too!” Bullshit. Run from those. Think fake influencer. You definitely don’t need anything that is going to make you feel like you’re not succeeding, when any day you don’t drink is a roaring success in and of itself.

-Aside: I do wish there were more than the occasional blog from someone still living with an active daily drinker. It’s not an excuse, but it’s really hard to shut off my addicted brain when there is always a beer in view. Extremely hard. It makes it very easy for that voice to convince me that it really doesn’t matter if I drink or not, so why not drink if everyone else is, ok? Add in the alcohol industry’s bombardment through the media and nearly every tv show and movie, aimed at telling and showing us how wonderful it is to drink (until you get drunk or overdo it, then you’re somehow the problem) and it’s almost a lost cause from the get-go.

The book that first gave me the most information about alcohol and its addiction is Under the Influence. An older book, but still very valid and enlightening.

The first “how to stop” I read was The Small Book, which is about AVR, something that newer authors have built on and incorporated into their own guides.

One of my favorite quit lit books is The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, and another is Between Drinks by a former professional drinker in Australia.

If you’re curious about AA, Russell Brand has a unique take on the program which he writes about in Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions. There’s also One Breathe at a Time and The 12-Step Buddhist for those with a view towards Eastern spirituality.

Belle has a 100-day challenge on her site, Tired of Thinking About Drinking, and Annie Grace has a book with a 30-day challenge, as well as other resources on her website, This Naked Mind.

I recently discovered that Twitter has a hashtag community, RecoveryPosse, filled with support and promoted books about sobriety authors. I know Instagram has a sobriety community, too.

Welcome aboard, and here’s to leaving alcohol behind!

Much love,

Pip 😎

PS: If you’ve followed me for a while and you’ve heard this all before, imagine how it feels to be in my shoes, or any other drinker struggling with this addiction. 🙏

PPS: For those wondering, no, I’ve never sent light while under the influence. That would be unethical as hell, and I respect (and am in awe of) what I do too much to mess with it like that.

PPPS: I almost didn’t post this today. I wrote it yesterday and in the middle of the night had a panic attack, wondering “what if I don’t succeed? I don’t want to be embarrassed again!”, and “Does anyone need to know this? Does anyone really care?” and took it off pre-scheduling. It won’t leave me alone, though, so here it is, for all the world to read. 😱

*Quote from 28 Days.

©Pip Miller – March 2021

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Oh, Dear May, Bite Me

This month has been about 5 months long already. Is it just me? We have a house guest for an unknown length of time, took care of a very, very sick dog who ended up having to be put to sleep (is there another way to say that? Put to sleep just sounds so…I don’t know, just wrong; he’s not sleeping). The weather has been insane, I’ve got about a billion tasks on my plate, and on top of all that, I was trying not to drink.

The dog just sent the wagon hurtling over the edge, and I’m really too damned tired and sad to care about whether I drink or not. He truly was a gentle giant and today would have been his third birthday. My heart hurts, and it wasn’t even our dog! He was the brother to one of ours, though.

Add in the never-ending train wreck that our government is, and I’m over this month.

Today the dark moon is in Taurus – yes, dark moon. Contrary to calendars, it is NOT the new moon when you can’t see the moon at night (check out Lady Althaea’s excellent post about the difference). This is a pause in the dance, one I’d love to take advantage of, but I’ve too much to do today.

BTW, the new moon is when you see the crescent, and that will be on Tuesday. Theresa Reed wrote a post about the new moon and what it means, including some card readings for each sign.

Be kind, be safe, and please, take care of yourself. If you can, take advantage of this pause and have a self-care day. If you can’t, well, be as gentle with yourself as you can.

Much love,

Pip 🙂

©Pip Miller – May 2018

PS: the other day I offered a few free 15-minute sessions on Twitter, and one of them was given to Christina Ng of Reconnects Reiki. It was a simple, short, general session, and this was her feedback:

“THANK YOU. That went deep. Took my Angels’ advice to go lie down in my treatment room to minimize dizziness. Between you, your guides, & mine, I was able to rearrange my shields to dump out garbage and pull back my own soul fragments… esp. around my brain & eyes.”

I tell you what…feedback never fails to amaze me! 🙂

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What’s Your Oasis?

I was just sending healing light to someone, and sitting outside as usual, watching nature. I caught site of a ladybug frantically climbing up and down the weeds that we allow to grow around the birdbath. I thought she was an ant at first because of how she was moving. Then she climbed one stalk and paused in the fern-like thing at the top, but almost immediately turned back around and started her frantic pace again.

You can just see her hiding in there.

She climbed three or four other stalks, then ran back up that particular one that caused her to pause, and she’s been there ever since.

She found her oasis.

The light I was sending was for anxiety and panic attacks, and it just kept running through my mind: find your oasis, find your oasis.

So, I wonder, what’s yours?

©Pip Miller – May 2018