I’m ready. I’m looking forward to it. I’m planning in my head how to spend the day (though the first couple days are always easy), and making sure I have lots of sparkling water and treats on hand.
I plan to start the day sending light because it always makes me feel good to help others, and it puts me in a good frame of mind for the day, too.
I have a TBR pile that’s pretty big, and it has quite a few cozy mysteries for the days when my brain isn’t up to intricate books. I’ll add thing to my sobriety toolbox as the month goes, on, and remove anything that isn’t really helping me deal with TBB.
One big change, that I’m not looking forward to, is that I start work on the 5th. No masks sends me over the freaking-out edge, and while I’ll do my best to be as careful as I can, I know that being the only one masked (even a good mask) isn’t enough protection. My stomach has really been tied to my emotions more than ever, and I already have lots of butterflies. I’ve tried to find a work-from-home, and to make my healing work my living, but neither has happened. I’m sad. Very sad.
Wish me luck! And if anyone else is doing Dry July….we can do it!!!
In another, well, I’m sure everyone knew this, but it hit me like a bolt of lightning, passage from a book.
So with regards to Dry July, my goal is not to drink all month, and now I need to put into place a ritual to make sure I achieve that goal. Sounds simple, right? I’m sure TBB (TheBeerBitch) will have something to say about that, but drowning her out will of course be part of the ritual.
I’m feeling excited!
And to make the day even better, it rained all night (yay), AND I was asked to send light to a horse trainer who had a terrible fall. I ended up doing an hour for that one because my hands ‘told’ me to. The flow was strong, and I hope it helped!
BTW, eagle-eyed followers may have noticed that I switched from a static website page to a traditional blog format. It just felt right, and I’m hoping it will get people to look at more pages on the site. I still have an ‘About’ page I call “Pip Who?“. lol
There’s a quote that says something like, ‘don’t do harder, do different’, and I know from long experience that it’s really difficult for me to go cold turkey from drinking, not because I’m incapable, but because I give in too easily to outer influences these days. I’m not proud of it, but it’s true.
I decided to use create a mind map, and figure out what would really help me when TheBeerBitch (TBB for short) starts yelling in my head.
I wrote down 6 things, mixing goals and feelings. Then I narrowed it down to what was most important to me. I came up with sobriety, comforted, and financially secure. For sobriety, the offshoots are lots of tea and sparkling water, listening to sober podcasts, reading sober books/blogs, and making sure to blog my progress as a sort of accountability throughout the month.
Now while these are great to keep in mind, they don’t really help in the moment, ya know? In “An Outsider’s Guide to Humans“, Camille Pang describes and includes a picture of her ‘decision tree’*, which she uses to plan for a specific outcome by planning ahead for what will happen if, say in my case, 3 pm hits and TBB starts yelling in my head that it’s time for a beer. Option A is drink a sparkling water, and if that doesn’t work, then A1 is put on a sober podcast. If option A works, then we move on to making dinner. If temptation starts again, then option B is…
Each option has ‘if this, then that’ branches, and branches off of those branches until, no matter what happens (that I can foresee), I have a something to do to keep me from grabbing that beer. And the goal is always that one outcome, not to drink for July. BTW, the roots of the tree are things that are necessary no matter what (the water, a journal nearby, M&M’s, lavender lotion for calming when TBB is really screaming, etc).
I’m sure this idea has been around for ages, but I don’t remember coming across it before, and I just spent 2 hours trying to remember the name of book, finally heading to the library where the title was found by the librarian, because librarians are actually mythical creatures who know ALL, and then driving to another branch to pick up a copy. Because I knew that decision tree is going to be very important in July.
*Aside, the illustrations are the author’s own, and her handwriting is a bit difficult to decipher. There’s still one phrase in a particular picture that I can not make heads nor tails of, no matter what. It would have been really helpful if they’d copied the illustrations and made them legible. IJS.
My tree will definitely have energy healing (which means family and friends are going to be receiving “hey, just sent some light to you -or your pet-!” texts. lol)
Have any of you used something similar to the decision tree? If so, what for, and did it help?
Found this on Twitter this morning, and in the comments people mentioned that either they don’t comment on others’ blogs, or others don’t comment on theirs…
No one asked me, but I’d like to defend lazy blog posts. Not everything needs to be a 300 word masterpiece. You can just share an open ended question and wait to see what conversations unfold in the comments.— Josepha Haden Chomphosy (@JosephaHaden) June 21, 2022
Which got me wondering about the nearly 200 followers I have and the less than a handful of comments posts get. And then it dawned on me that I don’t really comment very often, either. I think we all got so used to hitting ‘like’ or ‘heart’ that anything more in this now, now, now online world has been trained out of us. You can even click on the star here on WordPress for ‘like’ instead of commenting.
Have we lost the ability to communicate and connect?
Starting on the 1st, my guy and are going to do a month without alcohol. Dry July without the sponsors. That’s what yesterday’s question was concerning and wanting the community aspect was part of my dilemma.
Sticking with WordPress makes sense because yes, you can comment on Substack, but it’s another site you’d have to sign up for in order to comment, and if you’re reading this, you either already get these posts via email or there’s another way you read them, so maybe you’ll comment as the month goes on (or even join in!).
I don’t know if I’ll post daily, but will most likely multiple times a week, so if you’re someone who prefers a streamlined inbox, following the blog here on WordPress and reading at will might be a better option.
Substack or WordPress? Do you subscribe to both? Do you prefer one over the other? I only ask because I want to write something a bit niche, and I’m not sure if this is where to do it -though “Life” is part of the blog title, and I’ve stopped focusing on energy healing – or Substack would be better.
And, by the way, I most likely won’t continue to pay for the domain name here, and I’m hoping it will just become thishealinghobbitslife.wordpress.com when the time runs out. If not, I’m going to be a bit lost. lol
Summer is here with a bang. So much melting. We finally had the swamp cooler turned on, and the dogs are in heaven.
It’s hard to get the energy or motivation to do much of anything when it’s 100F outside, so it’s lovely to be able to help others without leaving the house. I’ve done quite a few sessions the past couple weeks, for various ailments, and the feedback has been wonderful. I like to send light to my Mom and tell her after the fact (she enjoys the surprise), and her feedback is always something like, “I just noticed I was able to walk easier!” or yesterdays, “I carried 3 water bottles into the living room instead of one!” which has been all she’s been capable since her health scare.
Last night there was a fire in the canyon, and it was really windy, so it was pretty scary for everyone near there for most of the night. There’s a video here, if you’re interested.
OH! I wanted to thank everyone who started following me here on the website instead of via social media. I left a note on Instagram, and today I’m going to “delete” the account. Twitter is still up, but I don’t use it for this – it’s pretty much a rage retweeting account these days. There’s so much to be upset about, and retweeting let’s me let go of the rage quicker. It’s weird, but it works for me. 🙂
I hope everyone is safe and cool, and those you love are the same!
I love my blog and I love my website. A lot. What I don’t love is the ‘must do’ social media. So, I’m not doing it anymore. I’m taking back my time and my mental health.
If you’d still like to read my posts, and hire me for energy healing, you’ll need to either have the posts emailed to you, or read them on WordPress reader. I think Bloglovin’ is kaput, so that option is out.
I hope you’ll stick around, and I really hope to be of service to you or your pets!
If you’ve followed along for a bit, you know I haven’t been feeling like my usual self for quite a few years, and it’s been worse recently. Had a chat with my doctor, and we’re doing some tests for a few things, but when I was mentioning how I’ve always been strong and had a brain, she said, “It’s the depression. It affects everything. The brain fog is your mind trying to escape…”
One, she’d never mentioned depression before, and two, that blew my mind. I had never heard it put that way, and it really hit home. The past 7 years have been so, so difficult – and my health started going downhill fairly quickly. The last 18 months sent it all over the edge: I had my month-long “breakdown” in July after 6 of the absolute most traumatic and stressful months in my entire life, and as I’ve mentioned before, I haven’t recovered and I don’t think I ever will. No wonder my brain wants to hide.
The weirdest thing happened after I left her office; the depths of my depression showed itself, and I saw how much I’d been hiding it from myself and everyone else. Well, mostly. The edges have peeked out in my writing and social media, but overall I had no clue that I’m not even treading water any more, I’m sinking.
I hate meds because if there’s a reaction to be had, I’ll have it, so we didn’t discuss anything like that. My friend Kellianne gave me a card reading a couple years ago, and in it she wrote, “Use your depression as a soft place to land and heal…” The though is so soothing, and at the same time I have no idea how to do that. There is so much on my plate and no way to let any of it go. There should be more, but I honestly haven’t been able to make myself go in search of a job, and that’s scary. You don’t get paid to have a breakdown, ya know?
I have a lot to think about, a lot to process, and being gentle with myself and my feelings is at the top of the list. I know there are a ton of resources out there (so, please, no links; thank you, but it’s too much right now), and right now all I can do is sit with this new knowledge and take each moment as it comes. Tiny steps. Tiny freak-outs. Tiny joys. Tiny laughs. Tiny everything.
Because anything bigger is overwhelming.
With love and hope,
PS: sending light always cheers me up and brings me joy. If you need help but can’t afford to purchase a session, I’m happy to take donations via Venmo. Send me a wave, and we’ll get your session set up.