This post’s title was in response to me mentioning in an email that someone in need, for whom I did a couple free sessions, could purchase 30 sessions for the price of 10. I was then asked why I was giving away 2/3 of the sessions for free when people assume that more expensive things have worth, and cheaper ones don’t.
The answer, which I sent back in caps, is that, by and large, no one wants to pay for sessions. But that’s not true.
The reality is that I see someone post that they (or their pet) are in pain, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, and it’s too damned hard to just sit on my hands and not offer to help. For free. Because offering to help and then telling them where to purchase a session is just…icky. So while, yes, there are those who will shoot me a payment – or even put me on retainer (you all know who you are, and thank you!), overall the sessions have been free, and it’s all my fault! So then I try high prices, low prices, package deals, wicked sales… but I’ve created a ‘why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free’ “business”.
The reply was to stop doing sessions for free, that I’m worth more than that, as is what I do. And I’ve tried to so very, very many times. But again, it’s hard to know I can help and not offer to help. So I offer, because it’s impossible not to.
I’m at a loss. All I’ve ever wanted since I found out I can do this, is to do this, and make my living at it, as so many others do with their passions and purpose in life. It fills my soul and my heart with such joy that no other work compares.
So yes, I am no longer doing sessions for free as of today. Which means not offering to help – that’s going to be incredibly difficult. Saying, “oh, bummer, that really sucks” instead of “Would you like me to send light?” is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And there’s a good chance that means this will all end when it’s time to re-up the website in June (I think. July? Not sure) because of it.
BTW, to those that I have offered sessions to, please do not take this to mean anything negative aimed at you; I was happy to help, believe me. This is aimed at me. It’s all on me. And I know it.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? Any suggestions on how to change all this?
With hope and love (and a lot of frustration with myself),
My Mom’s short version suggestion when I told her about this post and what brought it on: ‘I am sorry to announce that I can no longer do free sessions. If you value my work and the benefits it brings you, please use (whatever you use) to pay for your sessions. Here are my current rates.’ That’s my mom: succinct as hell. She rocks. BTW, I use Venmo. And my rates are here.
©Pip Miller – April 2022